Priya Parker talks with Debbie Millman about purposeful gatherings, embracing conflict, and why exclusion is paramount.
About the speaker
We’re honored to have Priya Parker as our main speaker at this event in conversation with writer, designer, educator, artist, and host of Design Matters — Debbie Millman.
Priya Parker is the founder of Thrive Labs, at which she helps activists, elected officials, corporate executives, educators, and philanthropists create transformative gatherings. Trained in the field of conflict resolution, Parker has worked on race relations on American college campuses and on peace processes in the Arab world, southern Africa, and India. She studied organizational design at M.I.T., public policy at the Harvard Kennedy School, and political and social thought at the University of Virginia. She lives in Brooklyn, New York and is the author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters (Riverhead Books).
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You know when you see work that makes you cry, you're doing the right work. — Priya Parker
Start with your need and communicate it to other people, and then exclude people in your life who are not going to help you with that need in that specific moment. — Priya Parker
I truly believe that if we had more conflict in the world, we would have less violence. — Priya Parker
Part of the reason we're scared of conflict is because it's dangerous. And we have lost our collective rituals to deal with it. . . . Therefore, it goes into unhealthy heat. — Priya Parker
We tend to conflate category with purpose. For example, when I say I am having a birthday party, most of us have a specific archetype of what that means—candles, a cake, etc. And we follow scripts in those categories. . . . The most powerful gatherings begin with purpose and don't begin with form. — Priya Parker