Sarah Rice on Insecure
What an interesting time to be talking about feeling uncertain and anxious within oneself with everything that is going on in the world. Especially since we find ourselves in a space where we are forced by law to sit still and face the silence within ourselves.
This is not always the most comfortable place to be because it means dropping the masks we put on so quickly when we turn around and face society. And let’s face it, those masks are pretty handy most of the time in avoiding getting hurt, showing our sensitivities and just making it out there.
We’ve all heard the coined phrase ‘Fake it til you make’ however this month we have pondered on the thought of whether following this kind of mantra is really powerful or helpful. Does it actually assist us in dealing with the root of what is going on internally?
We had the immense pleasure of welcoming to our virtual platform, Sarah Rice, who has had an incredibly interesting journey of throwing herself into the deep end and juggling between the polarities of hope and fear.
She reminded us that it is so important to acknowledge that to be human is to see and appreciate the depths of our shadow, insecure selves, instead of constantly striving to fit into the shallow ‘instagram world of uber confidence’ around us.
It is true that most often we don’t feel worthy to tackle life in its fullness and we end up getting stuck in that familiar impostor syndrome. And yes, it is one thing to acknowledge it, but quite another to overcome the feelings and shake off the fears.
Enter the ‘Insecurity Toolbox’.
Thank you to Sarah for lifting the lid and giving us a peek into her experiential treasure collection. These are some of the tools we can make our own:
- Find your heart-friends: Foster strong and forceful relationships and allow these fellow humans to support you in climbing out of your head and avoiding the ‘land of always-never’.
- Outsource your confidence: Let the confidence of others in you remind you of your beauty and courage in tackling the unknown.
- Separate feelings from facts: Pop that illusionary balloon floating in your mind so you can wake up to the reality of your true self.
- Dance with your insecurities: Flow with your heart’s rhythm to know what you need to move on your life’s beat.
- Find your practice: Go back to basics and focus on the small and significant daily wins in your life that make you uniquely who you are. It’s the gratitude for what seems small that shifts big time.
So, when you find the hinges are a little loose or the screws need a bit of a tightening, remember the tools in and around you. You may be surprised at what other treasures you find along the way. And please do share them with us!
Well, it seems lockdown wants to be starting to say its goodbyes and we will slowly crawl back to what will be a new normal.
Just perhaps, wearing an actual mask helped hold up the mirror for us and we can now be free and at ease to be our mask-less and vulnerable selves in the world.
We can raise a mug to that! Till next time…
