Love Lessons: Using Sex Therapy to Improve Every Relationship
In a world with the relationship escalator and the expectation that monogamy is the only way to do things, we cultivate jealousy.
Let's say I want to live in New York, my partner wants to live in LA. The solution is not to move to Kansas. No one is happy. We all lose.
The relationship escalator is that idea: we hopped on the escalator at the same time, we're all going to go at the same pace.
Active listening is a two-way street.
We choose the degree to which we invest in relationships.