Theme 44: Love

A sabedoria nunca vê uma coisa como sólida. São só construções, mágicas, brincadeiras.

Não queira ser interessante, queira que os outros sejam interessantes, então se interesse por todos seres que naturalmente você será interessante

As pessoas não querem pessoas interessantes, elas querem pessoas que se interessem. Por elas e pela vida.

A vida fica muito pequena quando a gente vive só com as relações de apego e aversão

Generosidade é oferecer sem contabilizar o retorno do investimento

O que nos separa é justamente o que nos une de modo condicionado

Equanimidade: a gente não precisa ter relações utilitárias a partir do nosso umbigo

Alegria é a capacidade de apreciação. Qualquer coisa que você deitar na experiência, vem alegria.

Eu posso ter empatia sem amor. Mas a compaixão entende o sofrimento do outro e entender que pode ser superado.

A nossa felicidade vem da conexão, não com uma coisa específica. Da conexão.

O amor é uma qualidade a ser cultivada

O amor não é um sentimento, é simplesmente o desejo de que o outro seja feliz

En la medida en que tú te quieras, te respetes, sientas hacia ti todo tipo de buenos sentimientos y entiendas que eso que tu tienes adentro, estás casi que obligado a repartirlo, la vida por un lado u otro se va a encargar de que eso se te devuelva y tu lo vas a notar de muchas maneras.

I realized that love is the thing in life that can cause you the most terrific, horrible pain, but it's also the the only thing on the planet that can heal you... Love really saved me.

I realized that love is the thing in life that can cause you the most horrific, terrible pain but it's also the only thing on the planet that can heal you.

I think you just need to share the love.

Love is the easiest thing, it's all the work that comes with that's really hard. To stay inspired, to stay fulfilled...

Share this knowledge, and it reciprocates - whether it's through education, events and talks, whether it's just about collaborating with people... you get so much back.

Get new perspectives, and figure out new ways of solving problems, and putting yourself out of that comfort zone so you can feed back into your design processes.

"There is nothing better than being a beginner, and nothing worse than trying to guard what you own." - Rodney Mullen, Skateboarder

It's very important to rekindle what you enjoyed as a child.

Get outside... encourage yourself to be involved in different activities that isn't design related. Design is only one aspect of being a designer, experiences is another.

You need to put yourself out of your comfort zone, and try new techniques.

We have to push ourselves and try to hone our skills, to give our best to the clients that we possibly can.

"Even though we have to listen to our clients... we still have to persevere as individuals"

"As soon as you break down those egos, I think that you'll feel a little more fulfilled."

Now, when I'm dealing with clients - I think the first thing we need to do is listen. Just shut up and listen. Let them talk about their brands, let them tell you their stories... ask open ended questions."

"What I've found through this journey... I think as designers, what we need to do first is break down ego-barriers."

"I hate going down the obvious route. I like going down the abstract route, trying to find new ways to highlight ideas and concepts for our clients..."

Your energy is currency, spend it well, invest it wisely.

You can’t find the time, you’ve gotta make the time.

You might be a genius but you still got to execute it, still need to put in the time, need to do something with it.

The most exciting thing about time is that actually, no matter who you are and what you do, we all have the same 24hrs and that’s never been any different, it will never be different. Me & Mozart are time buddies!

Love what you do! Love every single step of the craft, and just do it with honesty and purity!

Just do things that excites you, engages you, that makes others feel delight, feel warmth!

We are so damn lucky to be able to make stuff!

¿Qué están haciendo cuando están siendo mejores?

Es necesario hacer una pausa, para mirarnos

Dejar de amar, también es una elección

¿Cómo yo estoy amando el presente?

AMAR en gerundio

QUEDARSE AMANDO esa brecha entre lo que deseamos y lo que es

Change doesn't necessarily work like that, it has to start with you. I realised, I had to change myself actually!

Actually the most radical thing to do is to love somebody.

Las cosas no son lo que deseamos o lo que juzgamos ideal. Las cosas son lo que son.

In a world with the relationship escalator and the expectation that monogamy is the only way to do things, we cultivate jealousy.

Let's say I want to live in New York, my partner wants to live in LA. The solution is not to move to Kansas. No one is happy. We all lose.

The relationship escalator is that idea: we hopped on the escalator at the same time, we're all going to go at the same pace.

Active listening is a two-way street.

We choose the degree to which we invest in relationships.

We choose which mountain we'll climb or which ones we'll choose to carry.

The world needs your light now, more than ever, and there's no better time than this moment before us.

I leave you all with three questions: how will you own your voice, where will you inject love -and if you haven't already- when will you start?

Unforgiveness stunts your growth.

I'm not going to let the past hold me hostage, anymore.

How good are you at serving others if you don't serve yourself first.

Each of us in this room has the capacity to create that world—to inject love.

In the tumultuous world that we live in, and it seems to get more and more tumultuous each day, love, really, is the only thing that's going to carry us through.

Well in my day, the term was All You Need Is Love, and I still feel that way.

The love in work of activist is demanding love. So people have to love themself and then demand others love them too.

I do think that it's important to take care of yourself before to take care of others.

I had college written all over my forehead. I was that girl that was just headed down that track of success, and you know, getting to the best schools that you can get on the right track for life and get a good job and make money, and all of those things that we're told and expected to do, right?

Love is a beautiful thing and its the thing that we have to hold on to and the thing that we need to treasure and the only thing that will ever, in a million years, heal the world with the state that we're in.

Love and life had something different planned for me.

Your past grooms you for your purpose.

How am I going to find the poem in each moment today?

When I talk about love, I'm not talking about the noun. I'm referring to the verb, the action. The kind of love that gets in formation and shows up with so much courage.

Everyday I dream of a love in this world that flows so deep that no act could erase it, that no act could take it away.

Todos son una marca en potencia, todos tienen una audiencia a quien conquistar.

You can't move in love if you don't forgive. You can't move in love if you don't let go of the past. You can't move in love if you don't love yourself.

Jargon excludes rather than includes.

There's a larger system that you must learn to address rather than just people and that, I think, is a level of maturity that is very important to reach in learning how to live in the world.

What I gave today is enough. The amount of work that I put out, the amount of love that I put into the world is enough.

Love is the thing in life that can cause you the most horrific, terrible pain, but it’s also the only thing on the planet that can heal you.

I was just 18, I was really young, but I believe that we can create the world that we want to live in, just as we want to see it.

When you see that tiny green leaf or feel it inside yourself, water it and give it sunshine.

It's impressive how large of a scale two minds can achieve.

What does love mean? It's always about seeking to be one.

Own your voice to leave your mark.

Unforgiveness stunts your growth.

All of my leaps have been a process of asking myself, 'what am I going to do about it?' because we have the capacity to do something.

I think the culmination of all your skills and all your likes and all your loves and all your interests make you who you are and more importantly, they equip you to be prepared for what you're here to do.

If we are going to change the world, we have to be open to the perspectives of what other people are going through--whether you've experienced it firsthand or not.

I learned from empathy how to show up for people.

These are the two things you have control over, you can start out authentic and you can stay feral.

There are so many things that I really want to say that I can't say with words ... but I can say them with a poem, I can say them with a painting, I can say them with a dance.

You gotta keep your dreams in conversation.

There is nothing that we can do to erase what happened in the past but we can work on what’s happening in the present.

But we choose how our past informs our future and what we’ll do with all the beautiful moments in between. We choose which mountains we’ll climb or which ones we’ll attempt to carry. We choose how we’ll respond to the injustices of the world or which ones we’ll turn a blind eye to. But most importantly we choose how we’ll show up in the world. What contributions we’ll make. What rules we’ll break for the better. And with love as your compass you’ll always end up exactly where you belong. Right in the mist of fulfilling your purpose.

Cada uno da, lo que cada uno es.

Education is love.

Love lives in the now.

It is how much power that we give fear that determines whether we live our fear and our life decisions based on fear, or love. Because I have come to define love as a liberating passion.

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at begin to change.

I think the three most important pieces of empathy are: listen and teach, listen and teach, help and communicate.

There is darkness, and there is also light, so within my past I also learned about choice. And I chose that everyday I would rise up and fight for love like hell.

The opposite of darkness is light and love

Pain and trauma taught me all that I know about love.

Everyday I dream of a love in this world that flows so deep that no act could erase it, that no act could take it away.

Vocation: they are callings to be human beings. We long to be called to be our best selves, but so much of the messaging that we get culturally is not doing that.

There's this kind of trope now that we should all seek meaningful work. And that's important but it's not going to possible for everyone for the job they do to be in and of itself meaningful. I am very big on the notion of vocation and also opening vocation to be to be how you do whatever you are and how you are in all the spaces, not just your working life."

"The purest form of love is how we communicate with each other"

For me, the true origins of pure creativity - and this is before any mark is made, before any note is even played, before any design is developed or a concept is conceptualized, anything that happens - we must first fall in love. It’s vital. It’s important."

This is a very first mural I did in Richmond. It was illegal. I had a fake jumpsuit, the whole nine yards, I went here and did it in broad daylight. This guy comes around from work — two cocktail day — comes around and sees it. Hates it, like, "This sucks." But you know what, I didn't care because I'd stopped him, I made him take that one second and make a creative interpretation. He looked at it and went, "I don't like it. Huh, I don't know what it's doing here, but I don't like it." . . . I won.

Music can be used in an effective way to generate affection.

Music can really take you on a journey. It can make you 'feel things' before you 'think things'.

How do you build affection? The arts are a great tool to growing affection.

Doing something beautiful doesn't have to be this ginormous, impactful thing - it can be small and intimate and kind of take you by surprise.

Competition makes you humble, makes you better.

Emily Post probably wouldn't like that - but fuck that. If my client wants something that is different, I'm going to support it.

My clients trust me to be a part of their weddings - and that's a big piece.

I never lose sight, that I cannot do what I do without the help, insight, collaboration, creativity, and energy of others.

Don't be afraid to share what fills you up.

Letting Love Rule is about connecting with people. "Hey - I like what you are about, let's sit down for cocktails and find out more."

Part of what makes any creative endeavor or business successful is the collaboration piece.

If you let love rule, then your work will come through and the people who you want to work with will come to you.

Let Love Rule. It should be a commandment in our daily lives. It drives you toward sticking to your conviction of what you think is right for your client.

Creative Adventuring: You gotta go out and do things that make you want to come back to work.

Creative play has nothing to do with my clients, but it has everything to do with filling me up.

Creative adventuring: we should all play, regardless of what it does for our clients or project.

Believe in yourself and your creativity and what you have to offer.

Love what you do. Break out of the business side to make sure you can keep moving in your creative side.

Being creative is hard. Selling your creation is hard. But when you fill yourself up with those things in your life that make you more confident, the client is going to choose you.

Whether you are designing a website or a logo, drink in what inspires you.

Let the artist's boldness and sense of adventure trickle down to you.

We have that "adventurousness" in us as creative people - it's just figuring out how to tap into it.

Love is bold. It's boundless, it's brave, it's risky, it's vivid, it's bright.

There is a lot of power in acknowledging the love that works for you. Within that power it can be extremely motivating to sustain you through that project.

We all need to remind ourselves what love means to us, and make sure we hold onto it to carry us through.

Love is light. That is my touchstone. I call upon it when I am doubting who I am, doubting what I'm doing,

Love is light. Love is bold. And it fills you up.

When I do my work, I am as focused on what I love, and that can only serve my clients and the work I do better.

I thought that all these disparate things that filled me up didn't make any sense, but they seemed to really serve the work that I did.

Love what you are. We have all these pieces that define what we are and the work that we do.

Happiness is the state of contentment, comfort, and feeling secure. And love is not that. Love is demanding as it is giving, it's messy as it's perfect, it's challenging as it's rewarding you. But you have to open yourself up, you have to give yourself completely, you have to make yourself vulnerable—there's very little comfort or security in that, but when you strike that balance... it's the best thing on earth.

Taking the leap means that if your zone is profitable, you quit your day job for it

Find what you love and share your experience. . . Teach your skills. It is going to make you feel useful, it's going to make you feel a part of your community, and it's going to make the world a better place because of you.

Find those activities that makes you lose track of time and space.

For a long time, it was really hard for me to ask for help. There's an African proverb that goes: "If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together." And so finding my tribe became really, really crucial for me. Finding the tribe of people who love the work they do, and who are really about that life, as my friends would say.

We damn sure don't need permission to change the world.

So now I can look at myself in the mirror, eye-to-eye contact, and I can say, "What about you is undeserving of love?" . . . nothing. Nothing.

Relationships lead to love, and love conquers hate.

What I do believe in is affirming who people are, listening to what they say, and trying our best with what we've got to understand what they're saying to us.