Donte proposes that comparing our painful experiences to others might be preventing our own healing journey.
TEDx speaker, storyteller, and writer Donte Woods-Spikes explores how pain has been a part of his own journey and describes what he learned in the process of finding healing. As a teacher and mentor, Donte lost a young person he cared for deeply. Moving through this painful process and finding healing helped him to realize that sometimes what’s stopping us from feeling— and growing— is the ways we compare our experiences to others. We focus on what we “should” be feeling or how we “should” be healing instead of being with what is. He encourages us to see all of our experiences as unique, and to move through them in our own times and ways.