As a child I dreamed to be an author. In my teens an actress. And in my twenties a politician.

In the last decades I became more and more interested in the conditions for human connection. And especially in one of the most fascinating parts of life: how empathy helps us to connect and collaborate with each other.

Now at 51, I do what I love most and do best: write about, coach and practice empathy.

I feel honored to support individuals, couples, and organizations in strengthening their empathy skills, by modeling, didactic material and practice.

I am passionate about what I do. Coaching people through challenges and help them make choices beyond their imagination. In alignment with their values and aspirations. I am inspired by their courage and authenticity. I am excited to see how empathy skills contribute to their sense of meaning, purpose and contribution.

And if I am not coaching or teaching? Then you can find me on my meditation cushion. Visiting my friends and family in the Netherlands. Or reading books, riding my bike, knitting. But most of all: hanging out with my biggest fan, supporter, and teacher: my husband, David Nayer.

Empathy, Nonviolent Communication, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, the Netherlands, Mediation&Mindfulness.

Getting rid of my bloated belly!


My mom and dad: for staying fit and active, willing to self-reflect, always available for connection and support, great sense of humor and staying together for 55 years, holding on to each other regardless of their quibbles.

My smile and listening.

Hum. Sit on a cushion?

Can't remember.

Guessing feelings and needs.

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